Frequently Asked Questions

 

13. Will I ever get over what happened to me?

I hope it doesn’t frustrate you when I return one of your good questions with another question of mine. Truth is good questions are usually answered best by the people who ask them. At times, we just need help finding the right questions that more specifically address our anxieties.

So here I go again: What would “getting over” look like? This is grief work. Does a person ever “get over” losing a dear loved one? Of course not. We don’t get over losing our old belief systems either. It’s painful to lose them, especially when those systems seemed to have made life so much simpler when it comes to facing the hard questions that so many people don’t even believe they need to have answers for.

If “getting over” means “getting back” everything you’ve lost, maybe you need to re-think your original question. I wish the search for answers could be simpler. Problem is that simplicity is always shallow. Don’t be afraid to dig deep and question yourself and others, even as you stop to find the wonderful things that reside in you and others, all at the same time!

If it means "growing past," then you are on the right track. Get out of the medical model that talks about "healing" and "wounds." They are good words and relevant, yes. However, it's only a small step from those words into the world of "chronic illness" or "pathology." What if you start seeing yourself as healthy instead, healthy and moving toward a greater health. For all of us have a lot of health if we look for it. We can see the glass as half full and start from there, emphasizing our positive traits and utilizing them to develop others.

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