Years of studying family systems theories, coupled with years of experience in psychiatric nursing, have led me to believe that collusion is a symptom of a serious systemic thinking disorder. Therefore collusion should not be considered, as some suggest, a normal occurrence.
During my time in Africa, I frequently checked the hemoglobin of African women and children, as I attempted to intervene in diseases which commonly were made much more serious because of anemia. It was rare to find a patient who was not anemic! Imagine how mistaken a health worker in Africa would be to conclude that anemia in African women and children is normal....."just must be something in their genes"....."must be since it is so common!"

The truth, of course, is that African women and children suffer from anemia because of other health issues. Most of these conditions will not be altered without massive changes in cultural, social, and economic systems. Doing so will require that the rest of the world changes the way we think about our responsibility to stop practices that contribute to the problem.

COLLUSION IN CASES OF SEXUAL OR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR IN FAMILY INCEST IS INCREDIBLY COMMON. YET IT IS NOT NORMAL.

COLLUSION, WHEREVER IT OCCURS, IS EVIDENCE OF A SPIRITUALLY SICK SYSTEM.

YES, COLLUSION IS A SYSTEMIC THINKING DISORDER, and IT’S BEEN AROUND SO LONG THAT SOME FOLKS JUSTIFY IT BY CALLING IT "NORMAL!"

As a nurse, I am trained to focus on the etiology (causes) of problems, the symptoms, and the treatment. Basic Facts about Collusion offers insights into DIM thinking and the resulting, destructive games that are highly visible in collusion. A Two-fold Treatment Approach deals with treating the system. This section of the website focuses only on etiology.

Reasons why individuals collude, either actively or passively, are partly due to acculturation. In many instances, they are also personal . Those with a vested interest in preserving the system or the profession at any cost are much more prone to keep secrets which are deemed to be more harmful to them personally than to be helpful for the larger community. People who come from families with unresolved issues of incest, alcoholism, drug abuse or other issues of extreme dysfunction are also more prone to collude. (For more insights, see Striking Parallels and Contrasts.)

Not only are we dealing with DIM thinking issues from the wider culture, we must also consider specific one's which tend to be even more prominent in religious communities:

• Closed-system thinking--"We don't need outside help. This church or denomination can find its own answers within its own ranks, thank you."
  
• Naivete'--When one's life revolves primarily around the activities of the cloistered "protection" of the institutional church, it is much easier to ignore the realities about both the outside the world and those of the institution of which one is so much a part. The theology of many religious communities encourages followers to see the outside world as "evil" and those within its circle as "good." Not seeing what is real greatly increases individual and collective vulnerability to victimization.
  
• Narcissism--Members of religious communities like to see themselves as "special" children of God. This sense of being exceptional makes it easy to justify collusion for many people.
  
• Patriarchal thinking--Patriarchy, according to Joan Chittister, O.S.B., is "elitism without merit." Not only does it enhance the god-image of religious leaders, making them exempt from accountability in the warped world of collusion. It also demonizes anyone who would call their behaviors into question. Finally, it provides help from the larger culture in giving preferential treatment to men, a problem which is even more magnified within religious circles.
  
• Competency Issues--There appears to be a sense of hopelessness and confusion in this area. Does the religious community have the same responsibility
  for setting universal standards for its professionals and volunteers? Should there be a code of ethics? If so, how can it be effective with the divisions and factions which exist within the community of faith? If not, who is going to protect the public when churches are largely exempt from outside regulations? The historic "honor system" has obviously resulted in a lot of dishonor to all concerned. If competency does not become a greater concern, how can we hope for the religious community to hold onto any respect at all? These are difficult questions to raise. Yet we dare not avoid them.
  
• The "Family of God" concept--If we think of the church as a family, we are far more prone to give solace to deviants within the group. (For more insights, see Striking Parallels and Contrasts.)

With my earliest roots planted in conservative religious circles in the South, coupled with the feedback I’ve gotten from my writing in the past few years, I’m convinced that clergy sexual abuse, clergy domestic violence, and incest (both in clergy and non-clergy households) is considerably more common in conservative groups than in mainline. There also seems to be a greater degree of physical violence involved in offenses, and a greater likelihood that victims will be minors.

Perpetrators are very shrewd in seeking out systems and localities where they feel they can keep their secrets from being exposed. So conservative theology, where even healthy discussions about sexuality are extremely rare, offers some of the “safest” places for perpetrators to operate. The more rigid the rules, whether those rules are made by the Vatican or by people who insist on the automatic gospel truth attributed to every “jot and tiddle” in the Bible, the more likely will be the resistance to facing the truth when it is close to home.

1. The degree of collusion in an institution will significantly increase in direct proportion to the evidence of the above issues within its belief system. Having lived in the worlds of both mainline and conservative Christian denominations, I find the degree of the above factors to be strikingly greater among the latter.
   
2. Clergy sexual and domestic violence within conservative circles is still largely hidden in conservative and Southern regions of the United States because of the greater degree of oppression of victims. The the degree of outright persecution and marginalization of messengers in these circles, where the above characteristics are especially pronounced, seems to be even stronger than in mainline circles.
   
3. Despite recent high-profile cases, such as those in Dallas, victims from the conservative South are far less likely to report their abuses, to go public, or even to connect with other survivors. However, thanks to the Web’s ability to break the isolation of survivors, this seems to be changing rapidly!

I believe the compounded problems of collusion in conservative congregations is increased further for several reasons:

• Even large denominations, such as the Southern Baptist Convention, can hide with a lot of safety behind the "autonomous church" defense. This means that local churches in these systems are entirely responsible for hiring, firing, and supervising their employees. Yet getting into the ranks of clergy is much easier than in hierarchal systems.
  
• There is far less exposure of clergy abuse in conservative circles than in mainline, where increasingly clergy are being required to attend workshops in order for the denomination to keep its insurance. Denominational publications which are more commonly read by laity appear much less likely to expose the issues in conservative circles.
  
• It is commonly believed among many mental health professionals that familial incest is more common in conservative homes, where the concept of father being "the head of the house" is easily taken to this extreme. Why should this not be true in the institutional church, as well?
  
• Few conservative churches have policies and procedures for handling allegations. If an institution has not been able to even consider the possibility of a case by acknowledging and preparing for it in advance, victims are far more likely to remain isolated, feeling that they are either the only victim within a church or denomination or have found the only clergy offender within its ranks.

(Please Note: The Roman Catholic Church, which has received, by far, the most media exposure of clergy sexual abuse, is just as conservative in its theology as Southern fundamentalists.)

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www.takecourage.org by Dee Ann Miller, author of How Little We Knew: Collusion and Confusion with Sexual Misconduct and The Truth about Malarkey.